Should have done this in the first place, going to my own domain…

Yeah, not sure what I was thinking when I started a wordpress.com hosted blog. Too many limitation with plugins, coding and themes for my taste. So I bought my own domain that is much more fitting: www.dirtylaundrydiva.com and I am just waiting on the server FTP info then I’ll install wordpress, import my blog posts and be good to go!

So, to make the transition easier you should subscribe to my feed so I can make sure the migration is flawless for you. Unfortunately I can’t redirect you from my wordpress.com blog (wordpress doesn’t let you) so that will be annoying for you, sorry I was such a dumb ass making a wordpress hosted blog. Trust me subscribe to my feed, it will be seamless!

Oh, once you are self hosted you can never go back my friends! REMEMBER THIS!

A night of hospitality hell…

Back in the day I had the pleasure of working for two different hotels in the area. One was a dumpy Radisson the other was an upscale, privately owned resort property. Here is a glimpse of a very common yet insane night at work at the resort property…

Ah, my first night back after a week of moving! The resort is completely sold out (all rooms booked) and we have about 40 rooms arrivals tonight, two desk clerks and 3 valet. Here is a rundown of the events:

A guest in room 228 booked the stay as a surprise for her boyfriend. She arranged a Creekside room, dinner, massages, champagne, chocolate covered strawberries and candles to be set up in the room while they were dining. Upon check in she finds that she is unhappy about the room she booked. She thought it was a suite on the creek with a whirlpool tub, it is actually a standard room with a whirlpool tub and creek view. She talks at me about how disappointed she is about the mix up, I listen and apologize many times and assure her that her dinner and special romantic surprise will go perfectly despite the room issues.

Room 140 smelled like smoke and couldn’t be rented, I need to move the person who booked this room to another room but we are sold out so we have no extra rooms available. The guest still wants a different room so we have to play around with Expedia & Hotels.com reservations (since these room types/ bed requests are never guaranteed). We end up moving room 140 to 241 after bumping an Expedia guest from their deluxe two queen room to a deluxe king room with a rollaway that once smelled like smoke. Nice huh? I would be so mad if it were me but what can you do?

Another guest comes down from 255 who just checked in. They are unhappy because they think they were told we had stand alone cottages on the creek.. We only have hotel rooms so I refund them and check them out because we could really use the room for someone else anyway!

I leave a message for the guest in room 228 about how we have a Creekside suite that has freed up, she doesn’t call me back.

A guest that has a reservation for tomorrow calls tonight to see if we have any rooms available.. Since the angry Creekside room lady in room 228 has not called me back and since we make bonuses on sold out nights I offer the Creekside suite to this lady at the $309 rate. She wants to take it so I make her a reservation. I delete the message for the guest in room 228 about the possible upgrade.

The guests that checked into room 255 and promptly checked out due to the “creekside cottage” miscommunication called us because they left a wedding ring near the sink in the room they just checked out of, oops! I quickly head up to the room to find the lost ring before housekeeping or the new room occupant arrive and find the ring.

In the meantime the lady that just called and made a reservation for our last Creekside suite (that the other guests just checked out of) calls and says she is stuck on the I17 behind a huge accident and that she wont be able to make it after all. I cancel her reservation. I leave a new message for the guest in room 228 about the availability of the Creekside suite that she is welcome to upgrade to and hope she calls me back this time!

228 lady finally calls me back and says she wants the room and she gives me all these special instructions about her special night. The plan is that we will get a call from the hostess when the guests are seated for dinner, then we will move their luggage to the newly upgraded room, once the things are moved we will deliver the chocolate covered strawberries, candles and champagne to the room, then I will wait for another call from the hostess when the guests are presented with heir check. Upon receiving this call I will head up to the room draw the bath, pour in bubble bath, light the candles and head out [sigh]…

Working in hospitality is enjoyable when you get to make things special for someone, it is not enjoyable when you are forced to mess with people’s reservations, deal with complaints and get yelled at all night.

Eventually I found the lost wedding ring for the “creekside cottage people”, got the guests with the smoky room a new one, delivered champagne and strawberries, drew a bubble bath, aired out the smoky room so that the people I who were supposed to have 2 queen beds could have this one if they wanted, checked in about 30 people myself, helped deliver bags and did it all with a fake smile on my face!

Folks, don’t mess with your service workers! Food servers, hotel workers, airline employees all have crappy jobs with lots of control over how enjoyable your experience is. Don’t be nasty to them for no reason, they already get enough crap from everyone else but if you do treat them badly expect to be fu*#ed with cause it is so enjoyable to mess with a rude customer!

Unmotivational thought of the day…. I hope you dance

Just not like this girl!

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Dear Landlord/ Real estate agent,

I really don’t fucking care about how many messages you have left on our various phone numbers. When you call 5 minutes before you want an inspector to come to our home, that we have a lease for, it is your bad not ours! We have rights to privacy and also to reasonable notice when you plan to have random people parading through our home, calling 5 minutes before hand is not reasonable.

Also, leaving your snotty messages on our answering machines about how you have been trying to reach us wont make us care anymore. We don’t give a shit about you trying to sell the house we are renting and frankly we don’t have to do you any favors. Your issues with managing and scheduling appointments is you own bad, figure it out and don’t expect us to bend over backwards for you!

Additionally, treating your paying tenants like they have no rights or say in matters relating to the showing and touring of the home they rent is not a good way to get them to cooperate! It is a great way to get your name smeared on the web and we will intentionally fuck with you! Oh, if you do enter our home without a confirmed appointment someone’s ass will get munched by our dog and it will only be your fault!

I hope the buyers back out of this deal, that you make NO commission and the sellers fire you because you suck!

– Dirty Laundry Diva

If you are a renter looking for a home to rent/ lease I would strongly recommend NOT using Coldwell Banker! Any company that works as a property manager and a sellers agent is bad news for a renter.

They will screw you over by only caring about selling the home you are renting, regardless of how it inconveniences you as the renter. When they have a commission to make selling a home they could care less about the rights and experiences of the person renting the home, even though you are paying the mortgage on the place for the owner. Trust me they are bad news!

My new look and a rant about the economy!

Thanks MP and everyone else for noticing my spiffy new look and the header I modeled for and shot myself! Don’t you just love bright lipstick? It is sassy! It does distract me from the recent economic down turn temporarily.

I don’t know about you but I am feeling more and more angry about the state of the economy as the days go by. Today I paid $3.79 for a gallon of gas and I got a rather startling medical bill from a lab that my insurance was supposed to cover!

Gas prices are getting unbearable but we have to keep paying them. What is worse is public transportation is limited or nonexistent in many places (like here), many people are stuck paying for gas just to get to work where they don’t even make enough to justify driving to work.

Airlines are increasing their prices, food is more expensive everywhere and paying for health insurance is something many are going without because they can’t afford it (and because it is worthless half the time). It seems every company is trying to get more and more money from us these days, where is the money supposed to come from? Don’t they know most of us are worse off than them?

I am particularly pissed off about the insurance part of it today. NewscasterHottie pays almost $400 a month for health insurance coverage that we rarely use. I needed a few blood tests back in April, the insurance covered nothing and now we owe like $300 to the lab that did the blood tests. This is the first time we have even tried using the insurance this year!

We have paid them about $2000 since January for health insurance coverage and when we need them to cover $300 worth they don’t! What the hell do we pay for insurance if it is not going to cover ANYTHING we need? We would have been better off putting that $2000 into a health savings account so it would actually go towards our medical expenses, too bad a HSA was not an option with his lovely employer!

What is best is that NewscasterHottie works for a company that owns and publishes about 85 daily newspapers, it owns/ operates television stations that are viewed by about 20 million households and they also own several news sites on the internet.

They are a huge company, they compensated their top CEO $14,936,305 in 2006, yet they can’t even provide their employees with health insurance that covers the basics! Does anyone else see the absurdity in this? I am just fuming mad!

Burning bridges is a reoccuring theme these days!

I am not sure which it is but people these days are either

  1. too stupid to think before reacting or
  2. they just don’t give a crap

A gal that works with NewscasterHottie, we will call her SpasticValleygirl, hauled off and sent a nasty email that criticized the way a specific newscast went down that she was in. She blamed the “suckyness” of the show on her superiors and she went on and on about her grievances.

This email went out to her superiors and also to the entire staff of LittleDawgNews. How unprofessional is that? NewscasterHottie happens to be one of those superiors so he was offended and annoyed. When he told me I was appalled at the immaturity of her actions. Who does that sort of thing anyway?

Shit happens, this is true in any job right? We all have days where we want to bitch out our superiors but most of us don’t unless it is totally necessary, right? That is because we have brains and we are able to control ourselves like adults!

Dirty Laundry Diva’s Grievance Guide For Idiots

  • Something is pissing you off? Please make sure it is a valid issue before you waste the time of others. Chances are you are just a self centered, whining drain on society.
  • So you have a valid concern? Addressing your concern like a 5 year old will only cause people to ignore you or write things about you on the internet.
  • Think before you act. Hopefully after a little “cool down time” you will see things more clearly and perhaps you will see things from another’s perspective instead of just dwelling on your own self righteous views.
  • Are you solving the problem or just bi%ching? If you aren’t part of the solution then you are part of the problem so maybe you need to write a nasty email to yourself also!

What would you add to the list? Common I know you have got stuff to unload!

How to burn bridges via email.

Back in 2005, right around thanksgiving time, NewscasterHottie and I got some unsettling info from LittleDawgNews. Apparently the company that owns both BigDawgNews & LittleDawgNews felt that selling off the TV station LittleDawgNews works out of was a good idea. All employees were notified that the station was up for sale right before the holidays.

Any kind of job stability issue is stressful, regardless of who you are or what industry you work in. This news was obviously stressful and worrisome for us. Especially since NewscasterHottie just got his foot in the door, we were just getting used to our new town, we had just stated building a life for ourselves here!

The possibility of having to leave our new home behind was sad, I was rebuilding my career, NewscasterHottie was getting ahead in his job, things were starting to fall into place. We talked lots about the situation and were trying to come to terms with the uncertainty of it all.

As a writer I benefit from getting my thoughts out onto paper so I can evaluate them, come to terms with it all and perhaps change my perspective. Unfortunately, not all people can deal with or accept those innermost thoughts! Knowing this I was careful to keep my personal writings somewhat private. I expressed them on a blog and kept them viewable by friends only.

I had read that a close friend just got engaged, he was much younger than me so I was left feeling surprised and perhaps a bit behind everyone else. I wrote in a private blog:

Yeah okay here I go again… I read on a good friends profile today that he is now officially engaged… I am super happy for him but I am reminded of how slowly my life is moving…
Okay well I guess life is not moving slowly for us especially in light of the station being sold and us possibly being uprooted… I just feel like everyone else is going so fast…
I guess everyone isn’t moving that fast, everyone has their own speed for life… ugh, I don’t even know why I am writing this….
Congratulations Alex I wish you and Melissa the best!!!! I would love to know how you did it… 😉

As you can see my post was simply a rambling of my thoughts that I got out on to paper. I posted it on a social networking site to share it with those “friends” I was connected to. It was not publicly viewable so I felt I was safe sharing it, little did I know someone would betray this confidence.

To my surprise I received a nasty, out of the blue email the following morning from CrazyRantingLady in response to the private blog, she wasn’t even granted access to but that someone opted to share with her:

I have held my tongue long enough hoping that you would grow up. ENOUGH ALREADY! Everyone is aware of what you have been putting in your blog about how slowly your life is moving. I think for you to publicly complain about your lot in life at the age of 23 is absolutely self centered and disrespectful of NewscasterHottie on so public a forum. It shows how little class you have. Pull your head out of your ass and grow up!. TRUE love does not have a deadline to meet.
Everything I have read on your blog, is nothing but selfish, whining crap. I think you should follow all the warm fuzzy little quotes that appear in your blog about letting go and forgiveness. You shouldn’t be putting this added stress on my him. I have had to play the part of the “supportive wife” during 3 Rif’s in the past 5 to 6 years. I cannot speak for NewscasterHottie, but he needs support right now and going on the web and bemoaning your fate and railing at the gods is so lame.and is so nonproductive.
I remember that after being around me for just a few hours, you said I have so much negative energy around me that I drained you. Have you considered that I am simply.the mirror and what you are seeing is the reflection of yourself displayed? I would bet that the diamond stud you “lost” was the one with “the flaw” in it. You are that manipulative and mean.
P.S. I will no longer be your “statue” Light all the candles you want to and mumbo jumbo to the sky. I play on the “good guys team.” and I am very much protected. Remember that trophy wife could be just around the corner…………HISSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!

Well, that was enlightening huh? Poor CrazyRantingLady is lashing out on me, how wonderful! I just love how some people insist on taking what you say and twisting it around, plus the writing wasn’t public (till now!) or meant for her eyes so to go snooping around to try finding dirt on me is pathetic.

CrazyRantingLady has some issues and I guess she is just pissed off that I am in the picture now. I guess I have ruined her life by having a relationship with NewscasterHottie, boohoo! So the bridge is burned and I guess I should just be on guard for future attacks, her true colors have been displayed!

What is better is that she also sent the email to NewscasterHottie so he got to read every nasty word she wrote me before I did, he was very offended, warned me about the email and was also beginning to see her true colors. I wonder if she got the reaction she wanted from him…

I am still unsure about what was really behind this email but I honestly don’t care. I would never just go off and attack someone via email, I am not even attacking her via this blog and I should be (I guess airing the dirty laundry is enough for me)!

Seriously though, have you ever had an experience like this? What can you do when someone wages war on you and sets out to find your flaws or mistakes and use them against you? What can you do about it when it is someone in your family? Do you censor yourself and walk on egg shells to appease them or do you just continue being yourself regardless of what they think?

It just further substantiates my belief that no matter what some people are just out to get you… I have chosen to not let it affect my choices about what I share on the web. I think it all is kind of amusing to share.

The morale of the story is this: Don’t put anything in writing that you wouldn’t be okay with the entire world reading! Unless you are trying to burn bridges via email! 😉